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FOCCUS is an aid for your marriage preparation. It can help you study, understand and communicate openly about many things
that are important to your relationship. It is not a test or a way to predict the future. It is designed to help you to
identify the topics you need and want to talk about as a couple. Please complete the biographical data on the first screen. Follow instructions on the screen carefully. When you have answered these questions, please check them before proceeding. Then respond to the FOCCUS statements on the following screens one by one, storing them as you go. Please read each statement and mark the response that most appropriately reflects what you think and feel by clicking on one of three buttons like these : |
All couples respond to all FOCCUS statement nos 1-156. If you are an Interfaith/Interchurch couple, respond also to all statement nos 157-164. If you are entering a Remarriage for one or both of you, both persons also respond to all statement nos 165-173. If you are Cohabiting, respond also to all statement nos 174-189. | You may make a note on a sheet of paper of any issues that you particularly want to discuss with your partner as you are responding to the statements on the screen. Have a sheet of paper and a pencil handy for this purpose. However please do not attempt to discuss the statements with your partner while either of you are answering FOCCUS. After you have both completed your responses the data will be sent away for scoring. You are then encouraged to discuss the statements with your partner before the FOCCUS couple report comes back. The report will be sent to the facilitator/mentor couple who will take you through the process of looking at the topics you have identified as those you need and want to discuss. If you have not already done so you should make an appointment with a facilitator/mentor couple for this purpose. Ideally it should be between one and three weeks after you have completed this inventory. |
The facilitator/mentor couple will have available some follow-up questions you can discuss with each other relating to the
items you have identified as being issues of possible disagreement in your relationship. The process of discussion - either
on your own or with a facilitator/mentor couple - will probably resolve many of these, but you are encouraged also to
participate in other learning opportunities to strengthen your relationship. Details of these will be given to you by a
facilitator.
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At the end of the process you can complete a short planning sheet - FOCCUS for the Future - that will enable each of you to
summarise what you think and feel about the most significant topics in your relationship and what steps each of you expects
to take to make it even better in the future. You can keep and refer to this sheet, but the FOCCUS couple report will be
destroyed after you have been through it with the facilitator.
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